After Your Divorce - What to Do When You Feel Guilty About Your Decision
So you've gotten a divorce, and now you feel guilty about deciding to get one?It is understandable that if this is happening to you, you probably feel very confused and upset.
You may even feel as if you want to get back together with your spouse.
Maybe you feel as though you made the wrong choice.
This can be a difficult thing to sort through and figure out, but the tips below will help you determine where to start and what to do.
Where is the guilt coming from? The first thing you need to do is take some time and reflect on where the guilt is coming from.
Is it because you're lonely and you've been thinking about the happy years with your spouse?Do you feel badly for your children because their family is no longer together in the same way that it was?Or, is your guilt coming from a true desire to be back with your spouse and make things work with him or her?While it can be pretty difficult to determine the source of your guilty feelings, you need to take the time and figure it out.
This is how you can determine what steps to take next.
Get some outside opinions.
Although your opinion is the only one you should really consider when it comes to your next steps, getting some outside opinions can help you gain more insight into your own feelings.
You could schedule an appointment with your therapist if you have one.
This will help you find your way through the feelings that you're having.
Another thing you can do is speak with friends and family, but you want to make sure that they will give you an unbiased opinion on what you're feeling.
They may have some insight from an outsider's perspective that you won't have because you're inside the situation.
Once you have those opinions, you can look deeper into yourself in order to see what you're really feeling.
Don't talk to your ex spouse until you've determined exactly what you want.
If you're feeling particularly guilty, it can be difficult not to call them up and tell them that you really miss them or want to get back together.
However, you shouldn't do this unless you truly know what it is that you want.
What if you wake up in the morning feeling glad that you got the divorce after telling your spouse this?It will only hurt them and you more and will not solve any problems in the situation.
Make sure you know exactly what you want before discussing this with your spouse.
In the event that you do decide to get back together with your spouse, you will probably have some serious work to do in order to build back your relationship to a healthy and happy one, so make sure you consider all the work involved as well.
Divorce is a difficult situation and it can be easy to wonder exactly what you're feeling.
The truth is that the best thing you can do is give yourself time to determine exactly what you want and what the best thing for your situation is.
When you change your mind or feel differently each day, it's important to wait and determine your true feelings and the source of your guilt.
By following the tips above, you can do just that.
You may even feel as if you want to get back together with your spouse.
Maybe you feel as though you made the wrong choice.
This can be a difficult thing to sort through and figure out, but the tips below will help you determine where to start and what to do.
Where is the guilt coming from? The first thing you need to do is take some time and reflect on where the guilt is coming from.
Is it because you're lonely and you've been thinking about the happy years with your spouse?Do you feel badly for your children because their family is no longer together in the same way that it was?Or, is your guilt coming from a true desire to be back with your spouse and make things work with him or her?While it can be pretty difficult to determine the source of your guilty feelings, you need to take the time and figure it out.
This is how you can determine what steps to take next.
Get some outside opinions.
Although your opinion is the only one you should really consider when it comes to your next steps, getting some outside opinions can help you gain more insight into your own feelings.
You could schedule an appointment with your therapist if you have one.
This will help you find your way through the feelings that you're having.
Another thing you can do is speak with friends and family, but you want to make sure that they will give you an unbiased opinion on what you're feeling.
They may have some insight from an outsider's perspective that you won't have because you're inside the situation.
Once you have those opinions, you can look deeper into yourself in order to see what you're really feeling.
Don't talk to your ex spouse until you've determined exactly what you want.
If you're feeling particularly guilty, it can be difficult not to call them up and tell them that you really miss them or want to get back together.
However, you shouldn't do this unless you truly know what it is that you want.
What if you wake up in the morning feeling glad that you got the divorce after telling your spouse this?It will only hurt them and you more and will not solve any problems in the situation.
Make sure you know exactly what you want before discussing this with your spouse.
In the event that you do decide to get back together with your spouse, you will probably have some serious work to do in order to build back your relationship to a healthy and happy one, so make sure you consider all the work involved as well.
Divorce is a difficult situation and it can be easy to wonder exactly what you're feeling.
The truth is that the best thing you can do is give yourself time to determine exactly what you want and what the best thing for your situation is.
When you change your mind or feel differently each day, it's important to wait and determine your true feelings and the source of your guilt.
By following the tips above, you can do just that.
