Agape Love VS Conditional Love
The truth about basic love lies unstated, yet vaunted from the beginning of humanity.
Star-crossed lovers Romeo and Juliet taught us how to love and perish with it.
Many felt that perhaps to die for love is the maximum limit humans can stretch their hearts.
But how much exactly are we born to love? Do we love like how the angels do? Is there a love so great and powerful that even the gods envy? The truth is in every one of us.
Agape love is the ultimate love in life.
Unfortunately, only a small fraction possesses this exceptional gift that is almost equivalent to the love of God.
Perhaps, these selected few are angels sent by Jesus to spread his love to every corners of earth.
He chose to die on the cross in order to save the world.
Yet his love will always remain alive to atone for our sins.
Many a times when we are angry with someone, we display negative attitudes, body languages to the person we loved.
Modern society had taught us how to survive intellectually and financially, but certainly comes with a tough price in return.
People want to love and be loved with strings attached.
Whilst these may not necessarily refer to tangible materials like money or expensive gifts, it defeats the true meaning behind Agape Love completely.
People are guilty of it the minute they start to weigh and compare the amount of love they give and receive in return.
This theory of social exchange is no doubt eroding the basic love in humanity.
Do you recall yourself weeping over a breakup? Or getting angry with your loved ones over a spoiled dinner date? Contrasting to Agape Love, Conditional Love stems from a series of unrealistic expectations and greed from the committing party.
Love becomes a binding contract to fulfil loopholes, unmet demands and unstated expectations.
People see companionship as a replacement to boredom, disappointments and past negative experiences in hoping for positive changes in their lives.
But when the going gets tougher and tougher, can the tough gets going? What happens if one is no longer capable of providing and satisfying conditional love? Is the person still fit to love if he/she is physically or financially handicapped? Let's face the fact.
There is no perfect lover in this world.
Beauty, indeed, lies in the eyes of the beholder.
A lover is considered flawlessly perfect to that his/her loved ones, and that's adequately said and done.
Will you still regard them as the love of your life they become sick and dying? What do you do, when they lose the financial ability to support you? Do you abandon them when they become someone that is utterly different from the first time you met them? Valentine Day comes and goes every year.
If all you can think about is romantic candlelight dinner, flowers and chocolates, then it certainly calls for some degree of self-reflection.
Passionate or Romantic love, or even physical intimacy do not last forever.
You don't need a love expert to tell you that.
So what happens if everything runs out one day? Perhaps, unknown to many, what is left behind, is the ultimate test of providing Agape Love to each other.
When a relationship is showing signs of breaking down, As can be shown, Agape love implies unconditional love and its utmost conviction.
Certainly mother-love for her child is unconditional; but what happens if the child arrives to the mother with physical defects? The mother's love and patience will be put to extreme test.
A healthy woman that chooses to take care and marry her dying cancer-stricken lover is agape love.
These are exceptional circumstances when love does not call for any conditions in order to ensure continuance of the relationship.
Florence Nightingale proved agape love is possible between strangers and nurses.
It may be argued that nurses are paid to love their patient, this is clearly a misconception.
Extrinsic rewards are paid to motivate them, for the knowledge they provide to patients, but not for the love they shower from their hearts.
Even the richest person on earth is a pauper when it comes to buying love with money.
Face it, when you need real love in times of any crisis, you will easily detect the people who attempt to fake it.
Agape Love aka unconditional love is the one you have for your partner knowing they are not perfect.
You know they make mistakes.
You know they are capable of getting on your nerves when you least expect it, but that's alright.
You still love them for their imperfections.
So what's your type of love? Here's a simple test to find out: The next time when an argument arises, take 2 pieces of paper and start writing.
Note down all the things you are unhappy about the person on one paper and only: "I Love you" on the other.
Find a quiet spot and compare them intensely for the next five to ten minutes.
Finally, if you decide to tear up the paper stating all the faults and unhappiness, you know true love is in your heart.
Love will conquer them all.
Happy loving.
Star-crossed lovers Romeo and Juliet taught us how to love and perish with it.
Many felt that perhaps to die for love is the maximum limit humans can stretch their hearts.
But how much exactly are we born to love? Do we love like how the angels do? Is there a love so great and powerful that even the gods envy? The truth is in every one of us.
Agape love is the ultimate love in life.
Unfortunately, only a small fraction possesses this exceptional gift that is almost equivalent to the love of God.
Perhaps, these selected few are angels sent by Jesus to spread his love to every corners of earth.
He chose to die on the cross in order to save the world.
Yet his love will always remain alive to atone for our sins.
Many a times when we are angry with someone, we display negative attitudes, body languages to the person we loved.
Modern society had taught us how to survive intellectually and financially, but certainly comes with a tough price in return.
People want to love and be loved with strings attached.
Whilst these may not necessarily refer to tangible materials like money or expensive gifts, it defeats the true meaning behind Agape Love completely.
People are guilty of it the minute they start to weigh and compare the amount of love they give and receive in return.
This theory of social exchange is no doubt eroding the basic love in humanity.
Do you recall yourself weeping over a breakup? Or getting angry with your loved ones over a spoiled dinner date? Contrasting to Agape Love, Conditional Love stems from a series of unrealistic expectations and greed from the committing party.
Love becomes a binding contract to fulfil loopholes, unmet demands and unstated expectations.
People see companionship as a replacement to boredom, disappointments and past negative experiences in hoping for positive changes in their lives.
But when the going gets tougher and tougher, can the tough gets going? What happens if one is no longer capable of providing and satisfying conditional love? Is the person still fit to love if he/she is physically or financially handicapped? Let's face the fact.
There is no perfect lover in this world.
Beauty, indeed, lies in the eyes of the beholder.
A lover is considered flawlessly perfect to that his/her loved ones, and that's adequately said and done.
Will you still regard them as the love of your life they become sick and dying? What do you do, when they lose the financial ability to support you? Do you abandon them when they become someone that is utterly different from the first time you met them? Valentine Day comes and goes every year.
If all you can think about is romantic candlelight dinner, flowers and chocolates, then it certainly calls for some degree of self-reflection.
Passionate or Romantic love, or even physical intimacy do not last forever.
You don't need a love expert to tell you that.
So what happens if everything runs out one day? Perhaps, unknown to many, what is left behind, is the ultimate test of providing Agape Love to each other.
When a relationship is showing signs of breaking down, As can be shown, Agape love implies unconditional love and its utmost conviction.
Certainly mother-love for her child is unconditional; but what happens if the child arrives to the mother with physical defects? The mother's love and patience will be put to extreme test.
A healthy woman that chooses to take care and marry her dying cancer-stricken lover is agape love.
These are exceptional circumstances when love does not call for any conditions in order to ensure continuance of the relationship.
Florence Nightingale proved agape love is possible between strangers and nurses.
It may be argued that nurses are paid to love their patient, this is clearly a misconception.
Extrinsic rewards are paid to motivate them, for the knowledge they provide to patients, but not for the love they shower from their hearts.
Even the richest person on earth is a pauper when it comes to buying love with money.
Face it, when you need real love in times of any crisis, you will easily detect the people who attempt to fake it.
Agape Love aka unconditional love is the one you have for your partner knowing they are not perfect.
You know they make mistakes.
You know they are capable of getting on your nerves when you least expect it, but that's alright.
You still love them for their imperfections.
So what's your type of love? Here's a simple test to find out: The next time when an argument arises, take 2 pieces of paper and start writing.
Note down all the things you are unhappy about the person on one paper and only: "I Love you" on the other.
Find a quiet spot and compare them intensely for the next five to ten minutes.
Finally, if you decide to tear up the paper stating all the faults and unhappiness, you know true love is in your heart.
Love will conquer them all.
Happy loving.
