Grandparenting Woes - When You Blame Granny For Spoiling Your Kid
We all know that you had to work. You sent your kid to his grandparents place on weekdays and became a weekend parent. Your kid got sweets, soda and chips as if granny owns the mart. He climbed on the sofa with his shoes on. He gets to watch Nickelodeon and played Nintendo till he drops. He never had to keep any toys because dear granny will do it all for him.
Worst of all, he started to misbehave. He called names, talked rudely, destroyed things on purpose, became disrespectful and you even suspected him lying. You confronted and disciplined him and he showed great remorse. It looked like just about any kids misbehaving and it was all over. He behaved much better when he was with you at home.
Days, months and years had passed. Although you felt that grand-parenting lacked some disciplining efforts, there were little you could do. Grandparents loved the kid too much to put him at the time-out corner or take away his privileges. But you were concerned about your kid's behavior and foresee it may worsen over years. However being helpless, you are not sure how to fix his misbehavior.
One day, you were called in by the school teacher. To your horror, your beloved boy which you thought was 'not that bad' started a fight at school! The concern turned into distress and was causing you trauma and tension. He was later diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder and had several other fights at school. His grades at school were dropping and he was mixing with the wrong company. The kid's behavioral problem was causing you to lose sleep and constant arguments with your spouse.
Today, your defiant son does not listen anymore even to the most simple rule at home. Not to you. Not to your spouse. He became defiant, back-talks and abusive at home. Friends and neighbors shy away from him because of his defiant character and bad attitude. You get upset because people think and pass hurtful remarks of you being a lousy parent.
You started to blame the grandparents for not disciplining the him when he was much younger. Understandably, he was under the care of the grandparents most of the time. You felt that your kid was totally spoil from the start which caused all these distress. You regretted entrusting your kid under their care. You pointed fingers! You blamed and relationships turned sour.
But would you really think it is their fault? Well, think again. Think thoroughly. Perhaps, there was something you could to do to prevent his behavior from worsening.
Now that you are at your wits end, start to learn how to parent this moment. Procrastination will do more harm than good. It is never too late to start parenting now. Stop blaming and learn from the award-winning Total Transformation Program by empowering yourself with the right parenting skills to deal with difficult children. A program written by James Lehman, renowned Child Behavioral Therapist, it is widely trusted by parent because the program is astonishing. It transforms worst behaved children like the oppositional defiant disorder, back-talk, abusive, lying, disrespectful child into great behavior.
You can expect no more power struggle, shouting and arguments in the family. Look forward to a total transformation in your child and reinstate your family relationship from all generations.
Worst of all, he started to misbehave. He called names, talked rudely, destroyed things on purpose, became disrespectful and you even suspected him lying. You confronted and disciplined him and he showed great remorse. It looked like just about any kids misbehaving and it was all over. He behaved much better when he was with you at home.
Days, months and years had passed. Although you felt that grand-parenting lacked some disciplining efforts, there were little you could do. Grandparents loved the kid too much to put him at the time-out corner or take away his privileges. But you were concerned about your kid's behavior and foresee it may worsen over years. However being helpless, you are not sure how to fix his misbehavior.
One day, you were called in by the school teacher. To your horror, your beloved boy which you thought was 'not that bad' started a fight at school! The concern turned into distress and was causing you trauma and tension. He was later diagnosed with oppositional defiant disorder and had several other fights at school. His grades at school were dropping and he was mixing with the wrong company. The kid's behavioral problem was causing you to lose sleep and constant arguments with your spouse.
Today, your defiant son does not listen anymore even to the most simple rule at home. Not to you. Not to your spouse. He became defiant, back-talks and abusive at home. Friends and neighbors shy away from him because of his defiant character and bad attitude. You get upset because people think and pass hurtful remarks of you being a lousy parent.
You started to blame the grandparents for not disciplining the him when he was much younger. Understandably, he was under the care of the grandparents most of the time. You felt that your kid was totally spoil from the start which caused all these distress. You regretted entrusting your kid under their care. You pointed fingers! You blamed and relationships turned sour.
But would you really think it is their fault? Well, think again. Think thoroughly. Perhaps, there was something you could to do to prevent his behavior from worsening.
Now that you are at your wits end, start to learn how to parent this moment. Procrastination will do more harm than good. It is never too late to start parenting now. Stop blaming and learn from the award-winning Total Transformation Program by empowering yourself with the right parenting skills to deal with difficult children. A program written by James Lehman, renowned Child Behavioral Therapist, it is widely trusted by parent because the program is astonishing. It transforms worst behaved children like the oppositional defiant disorder, back-talk, abusive, lying, disrespectful child into great behavior.
You can expect no more power struggle, shouting and arguments in the family. Look forward to a total transformation in your child and reinstate your family relationship from all generations.
