Nobody Listens, Nobody Gets It
Do You Feel Like You're Talking to a Wall? I just wanted to be heard.
I fired my dentist this week and I feel better than I have in three months.
Why? Because I have had an issue with his work that he refused to take the blame for, telling me that I was going to have to learn to adjust my life and deal with it.
But did I win? I dreaded each of the repeated trips to see him to "fix" the problem because the song and dance was the same each time.
He talked over me refusing to listen.
Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone who cut you off or talked louder than you to keep you from finishing a sentence and force you to hear them? How did it make you feel? Did you feel smaller? Intimidated? Frustrated? Agitated? Did it make you feel like they were trying to force you to hear or buy into what they had to say? I've since been pondering over the entire ordeal with the dentist.
I recalled the first visit after I realized my appliance didn't fit properly.
My approach was angry and accusatory.
Every office call became a confrontation, a battle I was losing.
I left with the faulty appliance, in need of a new dentist and money to pay for a replacement.
Rather than a victory, it was RELIEF.
I thought about how other people are showing up to me and realized that's the way "I" am showing up.
They are my mirrors.
So, I wondered what gifts they are offering.
How are they blessings in my life? * So what am I learning about me that may need work? * Do I listen to others? * Am I open-minded? * Do I ask for help or demand it? * Am I afraid? * What is my resistance? * Are others frustrated with me? * Am I judging others? After all, one who owns the feelings owns the cause of them, too.
If you accept the responsibility, you have the power to change it.
Are you one of the many noncustodial mothers who have felt unheard, been unable to get your message across and intimidated by a forceful, controlling man until you stood your ground and left? Did you experience a sense of success in your decision to escape only to find reprieve rather than triumph after you were gone? There is a strong probability that you were feeling powerless.
Would you like more control in your life? Here are a few tips to taking your power back.
* Understand that you control what you experience.
* Your feelings come from INSIDE, so stop blaming outside influence.
* Your feelings are responding to your thoughts.
Are you thinking negatively? * How did you initiate the negativity in the situation? By appreciating your part in it, you can realize a different approach in the future.
* Know that you have complete control of your thoughts.
* Recall where your thoughts originated.
Were they from previous experiences that had nothing to do with this one? * Every encounter with another person is an opportunity for you to see a reflection of yourself.
What do you see in that person? This is a gift to you and an opportunity to grow.
* What have you learned from the occurrence? Enjoy all the blessings in your life!
I fired my dentist this week and I feel better than I have in three months.
Why? Because I have had an issue with his work that he refused to take the blame for, telling me that I was going to have to learn to adjust my life and deal with it.
But did I win? I dreaded each of the repeated trips to see him to "fix" the problem because the song and dance was the same each time.
He talked over me refusing to listen.
Have you ever tried to have a conversation with someone who cut you off or talked louder than you to keep you from finishing a sentence and force you to hear them? How did it make you feel? Did you feel smaller? Intimidated? Frustrated? Agitated? Did it make you feel like they were trying to force you to hear or buy into what they had to say? I've since been pondering over the entire ordeal with the dentist.
I recalled the first visit after I realized my appliance didn't fit properly.
My approach was angry and accusatory.
Every office call became a confrontation, a battle I was losing.
I left with the faulty appliance, in need of a new dentist and money to pay for a replacement.
Rather than a victory, it was RELIEF.
I thought about how other people are showing up to me and realized that's the way "I" am showing up.
They are my mirrors.
So, I wondered what gifts they are offering.
How are they blessings in my life? * So what am I learning about me that may need work? * Do I listen to others? * Am I open-minded? * Do I ask for help or demand it? * Am I afraid? * What is my resistance? * Are others frustrated with me? * Am I judging others? After all, one who owns the feelings owns the cause of them, too.
If you accept the responsibility, you have the power to change it.
Are you one of the many noncustodial mothers who have felt unheard, been unable to get your message across and intimidated by a forceful, controlling man until you stood your ground and left? Did you experience a sense of success in your decision to escape only to find reprieve rather than triumph after you were gone? There is a strong probability that you were feeling powerless.
Would you like more control in your life? Here are a few tips to taking your power back.
* Understand that you control what you experience.
* Your feelings come from INSIDE, so stop blaming outside influence.
* Your feelings are responding to your thoughts.
Are you thinking negatively? * How did you initiate the negativity in the situation? By appreciating your part in it, you can realize a different approach in the future.
* Know that you have complete control of your thoughts.
* Recall where your thoughts originated.
Were they from previous experiences that had nothing to do with this one? * Every encounter with another person is an opportunity for you to see a reflection of yourself.
What do you see in that person? This is a gift to you and an opportunity to grow.
* What have you learned from the occurrence? Enjoy all the blessings in your life!
