EFT and the Tearless Trauma Technique
When tapping to release a negative feeling or memory, we need to briefly connect to it.
Doing EFT is like throwing away your emotional rubbish.
And this is like throwing away the rubbish (or garbage) in your home.
You need to pick up the bag of rubbish in order to throw it in the big bin outside, from which the refuse collectors will come and take it away.
Of course, we do not open our bag of refuse and play with it or eat it or smear it on ourselves! We simply seal it, hold it at arm's length, and take it outside.
In the same way, when doing EFT we simply briefly connect to the issue we are working it but do not dwell on it.
Some advise focussing or concentrating on the issue, however for a traumatic issue this is a definite no-no.
It is best that you never concentrate or focus too much on an issue but simple briefly connect to it.
So how can we do that? Well, the Tearless Trauma Technique is a great way of reducing the focus.
This makes the heavy issue easier to release.
Otherwise, the tapper can get so overwhelmed that their energy gets too disturbed for EFT to be effective at that point in time.
The tearless Trauma Technique does not always mean tearless but comes as close as possible.
In its simplest form, instead of asking how you feel when you think about the issue, you ask how you would feel if you were to think about the issue.
That distances the tapper from the issue somewhat, which is good.
There are variations on this.
For example, you can imagine yourself sitting in front of a TV screen watching the event.
Then look at yourself watching the TV screen and that is your only connection to the event.
This is a technique borrowed from NLP and makes the process even milder.
Other ways include imagining how you might feel if you were to look at a book whose title is the event.
One even milder approach that I like is to imagine the event is in a sealed box outside the room and tap for "this sealed box outside the room feeling".
And a very simple way is to just briefly connect to the month in which the event happened and tap on something like "this thing that happened in June".
The box approach is one of the mildest, in my experience.
EFT is about releasing negative feelings.
The more gentle the process, the easier and smoother the release.
And the end result is peace.
And that is a great result.
Doing EFT is like throwing away your emotional rubbish.
And this is like throwing away the rubbish (or garbage) in your home.
You need to pick up the bag of rubbish in order to throw it in the big bin outside, from which the refuse collectors will come and take it away.
Of course, we do not open our bag of refuse and play with it or eat it or smear it on ourselves! We simply seal it, hold it at arm's length, and take it outside.
In the same way, when doing EFT we simply briefly connect to the issue we are working it but do not dwell on it.
Some advise focussing or concentrating on the issue, however for a traumatic issue this is a definite no-no.
It is best that you never concentrate or focus too much on an issue but simple briefly connect to it.
So how can we do that? Well, the Tearless Trauma Technique is a great way of reducing the focus.
This makes the heavy issue easier to release.
Otherwise, the tapper can get so overwhelmed that their energy gets too disturbed for EFT to be effective at that point in time.
The tearless Trauma Technique does not always mean tearless but comes as close as possible.
In its simplest form, instead of asking how you feel when you think about the issue, you ask how you would feel if you were to think about the issue.
That distances the tapper from the issue somewhat, which is good.
There are variations on this.
For example, you can imagine yourself sitting in front of a TV screen watching the event.
Then look at yourself watching the TV screen and that is your only connection to the event.
This is a technique borrowed from NLP and makes the process even milder.
Other ways include imagining how you might feel if you were to look at a book whose title is the event.
One even milder approach that I like is to imagine the event is in a sealed box outside the room and tap for "this sealed box outside the room feeling".
And a very simple way is to just briefly connect to the month in which the event happened and tap on something like "this thing that happened in June".
The box approach is one of the mildest, in my experience.
EFT is about releasing negative feelings.
The more gentle the process, the easier and smoother the release.
And the end result is peace.
And that is a great result.
