How To Become The Person You Want To Be
What type of person do you want to be? A question no doubt that springs to mind every now and then. However how often do you really take the time to think about this seriously and turn your thoughts into reality? A lack of perspective is often the biggest reason for this. People tend to take their lives for granted, which is a shame when we think about the good we can do for our lives when we think about them.
Striving for the correct work/life balance is essential for a harmonious life. All too often you will see the high powered executive stressed out and looking in their late fifties when in fact they are only thirty. There they are chasing the "dream", you know the one, money, success, get to the top, the "dream" that we have instilled in us from an early age. The dream that, if you are not careful will consume your very life, it will cloud your thoughts and judgement in your pursuit for it. It is far better to have a balanced perspective on life
Goals, dreams whatever you want to call them are essential for our well being. As people we all need something to strive for, aspirations are the foundations to a full and successful life. Having a goal is great because it injects purpose into our lives. You may already have a broad idea of a goal you would like to achieve. If this is the case, then now is the point to turn it into something specific.
For instance, if you are looking to take up golf think about how you are going to achieve this, set yourself a time frame, a deadline, a goal.. The brain works best when it receives clear instructions. If you were asked to do something vague by your boss at work you would ask them to clarify what they mean. A specific goal is a clear instruction.
A measure of self awareness is essential in critical decision making. After all if we do not feel in control of ourselves then how can we expect to take control over our own destiny and circumstance? As with any other extreme though an extreme amount of self awareness can be detrimental. It can cause us to be too fearful of the consequence of tasking action. In addition, what we shall call 'extreme self awareness' can lead us to being overly judgemental of our experiences and actions. So how do we get the balance right? Well fortunately help is at hand.
It is important to understand the power of self awareness. If you are honest with yourself and confident in the decisions that you make then what follows should be a well defined decision making process between what needs to be done, how to do it and can it be done. This eliminates those rash decisions which inevitably lead to disaster.
The difference between a successful out come and a failure is usually a snap decision, one that has not been thought through. By being self aware you are conscious of your own skills and your limitations. It is important to not confuse confidence with arrogance. If you are planning a new business venture make sure you have done as much research as possible. Make your goal a calculated risk, not an un-mitigated disaster.
Be prepared to take control of your life, it is all too easy to ride on the backs of others, be known for who you are and what you stand for. Be proud of your achievements and give yourself a pat on the back every now and then. We are all content to deal with the good but when it comes to the bad stuff we all shy away. Excuses such as 'It was due to circumstances beyond my control' are commonly used by people who do not want to take responsibility for their own actions. The problem with excuses such as these is that they are defeatist. Rather than getting us to look for solutions to our problems, they encourage us to accept our fate as if we were helpless.
Remember successful people are able to "see the light at the end of the tunnel" when to others it may seem switched off, they are able to draw strength from adversity.
Personal development will help you to become like this sort of person
Striving for the correct work/life balance is essential for a harmonious life. All too often you will see the high powered executive stressed out and looking in their late fifties when in fact they are only thirty. There they are chasing the "dream", you know the one, money, success, get to the top, the "dream" that we have instilled in us from an early age. The dream that, if you are not careful will consume your very life, it will cloud your thoughts and judgement in your pursuit for it. It is far better to have a balanced perspective on life
Goals, dreams whatever you want to call them are essential for our well being. As people we all need something to strive for, aspirations are the foundations to a full and successful life. Having a goal is great because it injects purpose into our lives. You may already have a broad idea of a goal you would like to achieve. If this is the case, then now is the point to turn it into something specific.
For instance, if you are looking to take up golf think about how you are going to achieve this, set yourself a time frame, a deadline, a goal.. The brain works best when it receives clear instructions. If you were asked to do something vague by your boss at work you would ask them to clarify what they mean. A specific goal is a clear instruction.
A measure of self awareness is essential in critical decision making. After all if we do not feel in control of ourselves then how can we expect to take control over our own destiny and circumstance? As with any other extreme though an extreme amount of self awareness can be detrimental. It can cause us to be too fearful of the consequence of tasking action. In addition, what we shall call 'extreme self awareness' can lead us to being overly judgemental of our experiences and actions. So how do we get the balance right? Well fortunately help is at hand.
It is important to understand the power of self awareness. If you are honest with yourself and confident in the decisions that you make then what follows should be a well defined decision making process between what needs to be done, how to do it and can it be done. This eliminates those rash decisions which inevitably lead to disaster.
The difference between a successful out come and a failure is usually a snap decision, one that has not been thought through. By being self aware you are conscious of your own skills and your limitations. It is important to not confuse confidence with arrogance. If you are planning a new business venture make sure you have done as much research as possible. Make your goal a calculated risk, not an un-mitigated disaster.
Be prepared to take control of your life, it is all too easy to ride on the backs of others, be known for who you are and what you stand for. Be proud of your achievements and give yourself a pat on the back every now and then. We are all content to deal with the good but when it comes to the bad stuff we all shy away. Excuses such as 'It was due to circumstances beyond my control' are commonly used by people who do not want to take responsibility for their own actions. The problem with excuses such as these is that they are defeatist. Rather than getting us to look for solutions to our problems, they encourage us to accept our fate as if we were helpless.
Remember successful people are able to "see the light at the end of the tunnel" when to others it may seem switched off, they are able to draw strength from adversity.
Personal development will help you to become like this sort of person
