In all walks of life it's crucial to take responsibility for our own mistakes.
To admit we are wrong is sometimes difficult but absolutely necessary.
I you want to get your ex back and the break up was your fault then facing up to your mistakes is absolutely vital.
Don't get me wrong here.
This is not about making yourself feel bad, it's not about punishing yourself for the mistakes you've made.
It's about acceptance, forgiveness and moving on with a positive mindset.
But hang on a second.
That doesn't mean sweeping it under the carpet.
It doesn't mean pretending it never happened.
If you think like that you stand little to no chance of getting your ex back.
No, you need to focus on the mistakes you made and why you made them.
Only than can you work out how not to do them again.
Because if you do then the result will be the same.
There are a few basic questions you need to answer: oDo you still love your ex? oIf you do, is the relationship really and truly worth saving, can it be made even stronger? oAre you ready and willing to admit it was your fault AND take action now to get your ex back? Has it ever occurred to you that many relationships that have broken down forever could have been saved if only one partner or the other had made the effort? How many people could have got back with their ex if they had tried? So, please don't make another mistake by not trying to get your ex back.
Whenever a relationship breaks down there must always be a period of time and space before a reconciliation can become a very real prospect.
Now the amount of time and space will vary depending on whether the breakup was fairly amicable of one that had lots of friction and emotion.
So give each other time, give each other space.
How much of each is something that you must decide.
So, here are three more important questions you need to answer; oWhen your relationship was at its strongest what clues are there that can help you get your ex back? oAre you ready to forgive yourself for the mistakes you made? You must be.
If not it will be obvious and will seriously damage any attempts you make in getting back together.
oYou know it will be worth it but are you prepared to be patient? I have said on many occasions in relationship articles that I've written that getting back together all about effective communication.
By that I mean positive and judgmental.
You must try to focus on the other person's feelings by being attentive and caring in conversation.
Once you have forgiven yourself for the mistakes you've made and resolved not to repeat those mistakes and feel you are ready emotionally it's time to go and talk to your ex.
It's important not to rush things.
Although you may have come to terms with the situation it may take your ex a little more time.
What is he or she still thinking.
How is your ex feeling? It may feel the right time for you but is it the right time for your ex.
The healing process takes different times for each person, especially when one person is to blame more than the other.
Be prepared to wait if need be.
By being positive and showing consideration you will be helping the reconciliation process.
If you can show how much you care and are willing to wait then there is every chance that you will indeed be able to get your ex back.