Win Your Ex Lover Back - Little by Little
Are you sure you want him/her back? If you have started reading this it suggests that you are interested in winning them back! This is something that cannot be rushed.
You have broken up for a reason and you need to nurture it back to how it was.
This is a time to show patience and take a soft approach.
As you are probably feeling down, hurt or stressed about your split, your emotions could well be in disarray, leaving you not thinking clearly or sensibly.
This could cause you to act in haste and not deal with it in the best way you should.
Obviously I don't know your exact situation and this might be hard for you to do! But firstly you need to break off any contact you have with them for the time being; for example a couple of weeks.
Remember you two were intimate with each other before and neither yours or their feelings are going to go away that quickly, this relatively short break will undoubtably make your ex wonder what your doing and how you are feeling.
This is a natural human curiosity and will not make things any worse between you, on the contrary it is likely to be the first step to getting back with your lover.
After this break, in which you have both had some breathing space and time to reflect on things, You can now prepare yourself to give your ex a quick phone call as it is probably your best option in making contact.
Depending on the circumstances as each situation is different.
An "initial" letter could be the best starting point.
Choose a time when they are likely to be there, your ex is bound to be interested in what you have been up to even though they may not show it at first.
Act as though you have accepted things without bringing up the reasons for your split.
It is important to keep your spirits up while on the phone and ask a few simple, pleasant questions.
Remember to keep the call short.
This "initial" call will bring your ex's thoughts about you two to the forefront again ...
they may include thinking things like; "Have they still got feelings for you?" or "Maybe it was a mistake in breaking up?".
Look at it like this; you have left your ex lover wondering and you certainly have not caused any harm by calling them.
This is your first little step, but in fact it could well turn out to be the first big step.
Think carefully back to when you first met and how you acted then.
Treat this first step like your just starting over.
You have broken up for a reason and you need to nurture it back to how it was.
This is a time to show patience and take a soft approach.
As you are probably feeling down, hurt or stressed about your split, your emotions could well be in disarray, leaving you not thinking clearly or sensibly.
This could cause you to act in haste and not deal with it in the best way you should.
Obviously I don't know your exact situation and this might be hard for you to do! But firstly you need to break off any contact you have with them for the time being; for example a couple of weeks.
Remember you two were intimate with each other before and neither yours or their feelings are going to go away that quickly, this relatively short break will undoubtably make your ex wonder what your doing and how you are feeling.
This is a natural human curiosity and will not make things any worse between you, on the contrary it is likely to be the first step to getting back with your lover.
After this break, in which you have both had some breathing space and time to reflect on things, You can now prepare yourself to give your ex a quick phone call as it is probably your best option in making contact.
Depending on the circumstances as each situation is different.
An "initial" letter could be the best starting point.
Choose a time when they are likely to be there, your ex is bound to be interested in what you have been up to even though they may not show it at first.
Act as though you have accepted things without bringing up the reasons for your split.
It is important to keep your spirits up while on the phone and ask a few simple, pleasant questions.
Remember to keep the call short.
This "initial" call will bring your ex's thoughts about you two to the forefront again ...
they may include thinking things like; "Have they still got feelings for you?" or "Maybe it was a mistake in breaking up?".
Look at it like this; you have left your ex lover wondering and you certainly have not caused any harm by calling them.
This is your first little step, but in fact it could well turn out to be the first big step.
Think carefully back to when you first met and how you acted then.
Treat this first step like your just starting over.
