Making Unhealthy Relationships Healthy
Living in unhealthy relationships is no fun for either party.
This leaves two options in general for couples that are caught in relationships that are neither healthy nor happy.
You can break up or you can make things better.
Are you ready to turn your relationship around? The problem is that most couples don't have a clue about where to begin making improvements.
There is a great deal of distrust by some people for traditional counseling methods.
As a result many couples find that this is not an option for one or both of them.
If this is your situation or you feel you honestly can't afford the financial burden of couples counseling there are other things you can do.
1) Communicate.
Don't talk at each other.
Learn to talk to each other.
More importantly, learn to listen to each other.
You need to spend a minimum of 15 minutes of each and every day talking to each other about something other than kids, work, and schedules.
You need to be a couple first and foremost during that time.
It will be difficult at first because that casual intimacy is gone from the relationship but it's important.
2) Touch.
Not sex.
At least not yet.
You need to cuddle, hold hands, kiss, scratch backs, rub sore muscles, and just touch as part of your every day routine.
It may be uncomfortable at first because a lot of time has passed without this casual contact but force it for a while until it feels natural to both of you.
If you really love each other you can overcome these obstacles that abound in unhealthy relationships.
3) Date.
Time away is the greatest gift you can give yourselves as a couple.
You don't have to spend a lot of money to enjoy a weekly date night but you do need to set aside that time each and every week.
Make each other a priority for one night a week.
If money is tight exchange babysitting with other couples, go to matinee movies, or pack a picnic basket and watch the sunset.
Be creative, be fun, and be together.
4) Sex.
Now we get to the fun stuff, right? Sex is an important part of being a couple.
You need to have a little sizzle in your sex to make it right though.
Healthy couples have sex more than once or twice a year.
If you can't remember the last time it's time to change that.
Even if you have to pencil it in every week until you've developed some spontaneity it's worth marking on the calendar and can make a huge difference in turning unhealthy relationships around.
This leaves two options in general for couples that are caught in relationships that are neither healthy nor happy.
You can break up or you can make things better.
Are you ready to turn your relationship around? The problem is that most couples don't have a clue about where to begin making improvements.
There is a great deal of distrust by some people for traditional counseling methods.
As a result many couples find that this is not an option for one or both of them.
If this is your situation or you feel you honestly can't afford the financial burden of couples counseling there are other things you can do.
1) Communicate.
Don't talk at each other.
Learn to talk to each other.
More importantly, learn to listen to each other.
You need to spend a minimum of 15 minutes of each and every day talking to each other about something other than kids, work, and schedules.
You need to be a couple first and foremost during that time.
It will be difficult at first because that casual intimacy is gone from the relationship but it's important.
2) Touch.
Not sex.
At least not yet.
You need to cuddle, hold hands, kiss, scratch backs, rub sore muscles, and just touch as part of your every day routine.
It may be uncomfortable at first because a lot of time has passed without this casual contact but force it for a while until it feels natural to both of you.
If you really love each other you can overcome these obstacles that abound in unhealthy relationships.
3) Date.
Time away is the greatest gift you can give yourselves as a couple.
You don't have to spend a lot of money to enjoy a weekly date night but you do need to set aside that time each and every week.
Make each other a priority for one night a week.
If money is tight exchange babysitting with other couples, go to matinee movies, or pack a picnic basket and watch the sunset.
Be creative, be fun, and be together.
4) Sex.
Now we get to the fun stuff, right? Sex is an important part of being a couple.
You need to have a little sizzle in your sex to make it right though.
Healthy couples have sex more than once or twice a year.
If you can't remember the last time it's time to change that.
Even if you have to pencil it in every week until you've developed some spontaneity it's worth marking on the calendar and can make a huge difference in turning unhealthy relationships around.
