How To Get What You Want From A Man
Is it possible to get what you want from a man when you are in a long-term relationship? At the beginning of the relationship when the emotions are high the man will usually be quite happy to give you what you want but with time he seems to get more resistant to giving you what you want.
How can you get what you want from a man? i.
Avoid the nag trap! Telling him over and over and over...
and over what it is that you want will not get you anywhere as he will simply shut you out so that after a while he simply stops listening to you.
The more you talk about what it is that you want...
the less he actually hears you.
To get what you want from a man means that the man MUST hear what it is that you want.
ii.
Manipulation will not work for long! Tears or emotional blackmail may get you what you want from a man for a short while but with time this method gets less and less effective.
He begins to feel used by you.
He feels that he is only a means to an end for you...
and resentment builds in him and he digs his heels in and refuses to give you ANYTHING that you want.
To get what you want from a man requires that the man does not feel used and abused by you.
iii.
Build your credibility in the relationship.
A man must be convinced that what you want is important to you and to your happiness in-order for him to give it to you.
Does he take you seriously or have you taught him that you should not be taken seriously? Are you fond of ultimatums and threats that you make when angry but which you never carry out? Then you have no credibility with him and so he is unable to take you seriously and give you what you want.
Cease and desist from threats and ultimatums and let your 'yes' mean 'yes'...
and your 'no' mean 'no'.
iv.
Ask for what is important to you! To get what you want from a man will require that you prioritize your wants as he simply CANNOT give you everything that you want.
Realize that as a human being he is incapable of meeting ALL of your wants so decide what is most critical to you...
and ask for that...
and only that! To get what you want from a man then he must clearly understand the importance of what you want from him so that he can be motivated to do it for you.
How can you get what you want from a man? i.
Avoid the nag trap! Telling him over and over and over...
and over what it is that you want will not get you anywhere as he will simply shut you out so that after a while he simply stops listening to you.
The more you talk about what it is that you want...
the less he actually hears you.
To get what you want from a man means that the man MUST hear what it is that you want.
ii.
Manipulation will not work for long! Tears or emotional blackmail may get you what you want from a man for a short while but with time this method gets less and less effective.
He begins to feel used by you.
He feels that he is only a means to an end for you...
and resentment builds in him and he digs his heels in and refuses to give you ANYTHING that you want.
To get what you want from a man requires that the man does not feel used and abused by you.
iii.
Build your credibility in the relationship.
A man must be convinced that what you want is important to you and to your happiness in-order for him to give it to you.
Does he take you seriously or have you taught him that you should not be taken seriously? Are you fond of ultimatums and threats that you make when angry but which you never carry out? Then you have no credibility with him and so he is unable to take you seriously and give you what you want.
Cease and desist from threats and ultimatums and let your 'yes' mean 'yes'...
and your 'no' mean 'no'.
iv.
Ask for what is important to you! To get what you want from a man will require that you prioritize your wants as he simply CANNOT give you everything that you want.
Realize that as a human being he is incapable of meeting ALL of your wants so decide what is most critical to you...
and ask for that...
and only that! To get what you want from a man then he must clearly understand the importance of what you want from him so that he can be motivated to do it for you.
