Most people who suffer the loss of a loved one grieve and then find some sort of recovery in their life.
They may be a changed person, and recognise that, but their grief lessens.
Sometimes people can be so overwhelmed by grief that their own lives seems diminished in the long term.
This can arise in people who so carefully protect themselves from depression that they never mourn.
Others may turn to drugs or alcohol which itself can inhibit the process of mourning.
Others may suffer from a real depression which does not lift.
Others may withdraw.
This is known as complicated grief.
If such a descriptions fits you, it is best to be brave and seek out help.
Unresolved or complicated grief may well occur if one of the following has been part of your life: 1.
A difficult or conflict filled relationship with little fulfillment before death.
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Another major crisis in your life at the same time as the death.
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Two or more deaths in a close space of time may that prevent you grieving in a normal way.
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A lack of support from friends and family at the time of a traumatic death.
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Refusing to let others help in your life, leading to a feeling of isolation.
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Memories of former death and traumas.
Seek help to make your bereavement real and a part of your own life story.
Denying a death and being angry about a death can prevent you from mourning properly and help deal with the loss emotionally.
Seek help to unravel the emotions inside you.
Simply living a life without emotions because your feelings of grief are so strong prevents you from grieving properly.
Seek help to find a path in your new life.
You may need help to find how to live with your new self.
Seek help to explore past deaths.
If you feel haunted by past deaths, you should have help to understand why this is the case.
If there is a link, it can help you recover.
These things are hard to do alone and it is important you find someone to talk to.