Solving the Breakup - A Quick Tip
You just had a big fight, and you and your loved one broke up in a very dramatic way.
It is highly possible that you are convinced that you are not at fault for this.
It is also possible that you might be wrong.
Keep in mind that you are not the first and not the last person to be wrong.
You have to take this as a possibility into account, it can be just simple misunderstandings (Yes, simple misunderstandings can lead to breakups, I've seen it many times), or your thoughts were blurred when angry.
When angry, you tend to rush the thoughts straight to their most horrible explanation, without any rational thinking or judgment.
As a normal human being, you will try to blame your ex for all.
It takes a lot of courage to admit that you did a mistake, unless it is obvious (like caught in a bed with your neighbor or work colleague).
Just hang on until the following day, when you are chill, and take every event into account and try to reach a rational conclusion.
Your mind must be clear, no crying, depression or in some extreme cases drinking.
If you are thinking, like many, that alcohol can heal your breakup, then you are very wrong.
Alcohol is classified as a depressant drug, and the name of the classification itself can give you a hint that it won't do any good.
Don't drink because you risk making a fool of yourself, and make the breakup feel even worse.
You must be able to analyze the facts from an objective point of view.
If you feel you can't do that or have the false impression that you can and your ex still has the whole blame, just ask a friend, preferably not a close one, because close friends will agree with you whatever you say, for obvious reasons and then you'll get to the same conclusion.
If you don't have a 'not so close' friend, you can ask whoever you have and convince them to say their point of view, without them worrying that you might get upset of what they say.
You can also do a small experiment: make your friend angry on you, and then he will spit the truth, no matter what, although I don't recommend it...
Anyway, find one or multiple objective point of views, and try to listen, even though you don't like it.
This will help you actually solve your breakup, realize your mistakes, or forgive your ex's mistakes, and then you can move on to your next step.
It is highly possible that you are convinced that you are not at fault for this.
It is also possible that you might be wrong.
Keep in mind that you are not the first and not the last person to be wrong.
You have to take this as a possibility into account, it can be just simple misunderstandings (Yes, simple misunderstandings can lead to breakups, I've seen it many times), or your thoughts were blurred when angry.
When angry, you tend to rush the thoughts straight to their most horrible explanation, without any rational thinking or judgment.
As a normal human being, you will try to blame your ex for all.
It takes a lot of courage to admit that you did a mistake, unless it is obvious (like caught in a bed with your neighbor or work colleague).
Just hang on until the following day, when you are chill, and take every event into account and try to reach a rational conclusion.
Your mind must be clear, no crying, depression or in some extreme cases drinking.
If you are thinking, like many, that alcohol can heal your breakup, then you are very wrong.
Alcohol is classified as a depressant drug, and the name of the classification itself can give you a hint that it won't do any good.
Don't drink because you risk making a fool of yourself, and make the breakup feel even worse.
You must be able to analyze the facts from an objective point of view.
If you feel you can't do that or have the false impression that you can and your ex still has the whole blame, just ask a friend, preferably not a close one, because close friends will agree with you whatever you say, for obvious reasons and then you'll get to the same conclusion.
If you don't have a 'not so close' friend, you can ask whoever you have and convince them to say their point of view, without them worrying that you might get upset of what they say.
You can also do a small experiment: make your friend angry on you, and then he will spit the truth, no matter what, although I don't recommend it...
Anyway, find one or multiple objective point of views, and try to listen, even though you don't like it.
This will help you actually solve your breakup, realize your mistakes, or forgive your ex's mistakes, and then you can move on to your next step.
