Afterplay is why you do with your partner after ejaculation, which is part of the sex session.
The information available on this subject is scarce in comparison to, say, foreplay and sexual positions.
Because of this lack of information, a lot of people tend to overlook it.
You need to be creative and sensitive to your partner's needs.
You should also experiment with what works and what does not work.
In this article, I will first list what men should not do, and then what women should not do.
Advice for men: 1.
Don't ask her whether she has reached an orgasm.
If you keep an eye on her body language, you can tell.
This question is usually embarrassing to women.
It may also put her under pressure to orgasm next time, or fake one.
Keep in mind that sometimes women just do not orgasm.
Though this does not mean that she did not enjoy the intimate relationship, or that she was not satisfied particularly if there was sufficient foreplay and afterplay.
Unlike men, women can enjoy sex without necessarily reaching an orgasm.
2.
Don't fall asleep immediately.
Resist this idea.
Try to be focused on your partner.
It is therefore advisable to plan your lovemaking time in advance and make it a bit earlier than usual, and probably not at night all together.
You may consider drinking coffee to help you stay awake.
In any case, avoid what makes you drowsy, particularly a heavy meal.
3.
Don't leave her.
Stay with her in the room.
If you have other commitments, you should manage your time carefully.
You may also tell her that you do have other commitments, but you do not want to leave her.
This will let her appreciate you.
4.
Don't even go to the bathroom if you can.
Use the toilet before you have sex.
This is afterplay time, not toilet time.
Don't keep her waiting.
5.
Don't turn on the TV.
This time should be devoted to her, and the TV will be an irritating distraction.
This might be a reason why you should not put a TV set in the bedroom.
6.
Don't check your phone.
If you want to check your text messages or missed calls, you can do this later.
Make sure you switch it off before you have sex.
This is not the right time for frequent interruptions, and those who call you can wait.
7.
Don't start reading the newspaper.
Doing this will let her feel distanced.
This is her time to talk with you.
Read the news at another time.
8.
Don't smoke if it irritates your partner.
9.
Don't just give her a kiss and a pat on her back.
You must show her that your feelings are genuine.
Tell her something romantic.
Tickle her.
Tell her how great she was.
Advice for women: 1.
Don't be shy to ask for what you need.
Do you want him to hug you? Do you want him to touch your hair? Then tell him.
Don't be shy.
2.
Don't talk about your problems.
This is not the right time.
Arrange for another time to talk about your problems with him.
3.
Don't ask for chores now.
Don't tell him to do the dishes.
Don't tell him to put his clothes in the washing machine.
These things can wait.
As I said earlier, currently there is not much information on afterplay.
You should experiment with these techniques and try to create others.