How to overcome fear of rejection and approach women
Back when I first started out learning the art of approaching women that I've never met before in my life, I was very shy. I would see a woman that I KNEW I should approach -- yet I wouldn't simply because the fear of rejection simply PARALYZED me. Literally, my knees would shake and my palms would get sweaty in nervousness -- and this was NOT something I regularly felt. Since I was in a band, I have performed in front of hundreds of people and feel nothing but the rush and adrenaline... But when it came to approaching an attractive woman that I didn't know, my feet were glued to the concrete.
After several times of this, I simply got sick of it all. I made a commitment to go out that day and make an approach. But first, the same thing happened -- I couldn't bring myself to talk to a stranger simply because I was scared she would reject me.
Then I had an "ah-ha" moment that literally changed the direction of my pursuits.
In my desperation to go home (because I made a commitment not to go home until I've made one approach), I approached someone with the intention of getting rejected -- because in my mind, I knew I was going to get rejected anyway. So I walked up to the first cutie that I saw and simply gave her a compliment. I KNEW I was going to get shut down right then and there because of how cheesy it was.
But guess what happened? No, I didn't get her number. But I got a giggle, we exchanged names, she thanked me for the compliment and I went on my way.
I couldn't believe it how a simple shift in mentality helped me actually get that approach done! I actually went on and approached 3 or 4 more women, and it simply became easier the more times I did it.
So here's my recommendation to you. If you're suffering from SEVERE approach anxiety, go out with the goal of chalking up rejections instead of phone numbers. You will be absolutely stunned at the amount of stuff that you can get away with when you simply don't care.
Learn How to understand women and use it to your sexual advantage
After several times of this, I simply got sick of it all. I made a commitment to go out that day and make an approach. But first, the same thing happened -- I couldn't bring myself to talk to a stranger simply because I was scared she would reject me.
Then I had an "ah-ha" moment that literally changed the direction of my pursuits.
In my desperation to go home (because I made a commitment not to go home until I've made one approach), I approached someone with the intention of getting rejected -- because in my mind, I knew I was going to get rejected anyway. So I walked up to the first cutie that I saw and simply gave her a compliment. I KNEW I was going to get shut down right then and there because of how cheesy it was.
Learn How to understand women and use it to your sexual advantage
But guess what happened? No, I didn't get her number. But I got a giggle, we exchanged names, she thanked me for the compliment and I went on my way.
I couldn't believe it how a simple shift in mentality helped me actually get that approach done! I actually went on and approached 3 or 4 more women, and it simply became easier the more times I did it.
So here's my recommendation to you. If you're suffering from SEVERE approach anxiety, go out with the goal of chalking up rejections instead of phone numbers. You will be absolutely stunned at the amount of stuff that you can get away with when you simply don't care.
