Moving on After Break Up - Problems You Have to Face
Moving on after a break up is easier said than done.
No doubt one has to move on when the break up is final.
In some instances, moving on after a break up can be very tough because of the sets of friends they had.
For example, while together, you sometimes went out with your boyfriend and also his friends.
And he also went with you and your friends.
Now after the break up, the break is only between you and him.
He might have enjoyed some good friendship with your own friends too.
Now he need not avoid them because they are his friends anyway.
Here is the awkward situation.
You happen to run into your ex while you are with your friends or his friends.
You and ex both first feel uncomfortable.
You have to learn to live with the situation for now.
You have to learn to take it easy because it is something you can do nothing about.
Of course, you may have to do some explaining to your friends.
At times, you may have to drop some of the friends who were very closer to him.
What you can do in this type of situation is to go on a long vacation immediately after a confirmed break up.
You can take your friends with you who were not closer to him or who never knew him.
That solves the problem temporarily and will give you strength to face the problem when you return.
If you both had no mutual friends then there is no scope for this problem.
There is another type of situation which is also difficult to handle all by yourself.
If your ex is popular with your family, they are going to ask you several questions which you will find irritating.
You must say the truth with politeness and firmness that you have ended your relationship and that you are moving on.
If they repeat their questions quite often you may tell that you don't appreciate being reminded of old things.
There are times the family wants you to be involved in the relationship and may encourage you to get back to your ex though you are sure you don't want to get back to your ex.
They may take the name of your ex frequently with the hope that you will get back together.
When you insist that you have moved on and that the relationship is over, they will eventually change their attitude.
No doubt one has to move on when the break up is final.
In some instances, moving on after a break up can be very tough because of the sets of friends they had.
For example, while together, you sometimes went out with your boyfriend and also his friends.
And he also went with you and your friends.
Now after the break up, the break is only between you and him.
He might have enjoyed some good friendship with your own friends too.
Now he need not avoid them because they are his friends anyway.
Here is the awkward situation.
You happen to run into your ex while you are with your friends or his friends.
You and ex both first feel uncomfortable.
You have to learn to live with the situation for now.
You have to learn to take it easy because it is something you can do nothing about.
Of course, you may have to do some explaining to your friends.
At times, you may have to drop some of the friends who were very closer to him.
What you can do in this type of situation is to go on a long vacation immediately after a confirmed break up.
You can take your friends with you who were not closer to him or who never knew him.
That solves the problem temporarily and will give you strength to face the problem when you return.
If you both had no mutual friends then there is no scope for this problem.
There is another type of situation which is also difficult to handle all by yourself.
If your ex is popular with your family, they are going to ask you several questions which you will find irritating.
You must say the truth with politeness and firmness that you have ended your relationship and that you are moving on.
If they repeat their questions quite often you may tell that you don't appreciate being reminded of old things.
There are times the family wants you to be involved in the relationship and may encourage you to get back to your ex though you are sure you don't want to get back to your ex.
They may take the name of your ex frequently with the hope that you will get back together.
When you insist that you have moved on and that the relationship is over, they will eventually change their attitude.
