Proven Process to Get Your Ex Back
When your partner up and decides to call it quits, it can really impact your life.
Chances are that if you're reading this, I probably don't have to tell you that.
I know that things can seem like they're falling apart, but rest assured that with a little work you CAN pull your life back together and even get your ex back! The first thing, the most important thing I can tell you, is to not fall into a nonproductive depressive state.
Things will never get better with you drowning in buckets of your own tears, so the sooner you change your outlook on things the sooner you'll be able to do something about it.
Once you've found yourself the motivation and determination to rise up and make the choice to make your life better and get your ex back, you've won half the battle.
Changing your attitude is the first step, and once you have found that will to succeed, everything else is just taking it one step at a time.
Now, chances are this comes a little too late, but when your partner has JUST broken up with you, it's important not to hound him/her about it.
As much as you may want to get back together immediately like nothing happened, bothering your now-ex when he/she is still hurting over the breakup isn't going to make things any better and actually has a fair chance of making it worse.
Even if you've already made the mistake of pressuring your ex into getting back together, back off now.
Give your ex some space...
and you could use it too.
The time you're not spending chasing back after your ex could be much better spent by doing some self-work.
I know that "self-work" is an ugly word that most people don't like, but it's important if you really want to get your ex back.
I'd say there's a 95% chance that if your partner broke up with you, the problem is SOMETHING to do with you.
People don't just end happy relationships that fulfill their needs, and usually the catalyst that makes the person decide to end it is some sort of behavior or fault of the partner.
It may not even be a BIG thing, but there's something not quite right with your half of the relationship.
Whatever it is you were doing or not doing, you need to figure it out so that you can do that dreaded self-work and really fix the source of your relationship troubles so that you stop having them.
It could be anything from a few annoying habits to a more grave concern like cheating on your partner.
I can't analyze your life for you and tell you what the problem is, that's something you're going to have to do yourself.
Once you HAVE figured out what's wrong, and really taken the necessary steps to fix your side of the problems, enough time will probably have passed to the point that reestablishing contact with your ex will be acceptable, but only if the contact is light and unassuming...
perhaps a phone call or email seeing how he/she is doing.
The point of this contact is simply just to make yourself known again, and open a few doors back up...
do NOT start trying to get back together at this point.
Take it slow.
If the first contact was received without too much hassle, you can work on slowly rebuilding contact with your ex.
This is a somewhat prolonged process that takes a while, but it's what works.
What you need to do is let your ex see how much you've been working on and are continuing to work on yourself, without flatly telling him/her.
Let your ex see it for him/herself.
Once it's gotten to a point where you're spending a fair amount of time together again, make sure that the things you're doing together are fun things you've always enjoyed together and that will bring back memories of how good you were together.
With the new and improved you, they'll probably be even better times than the memories, and your ex should begin to wonder if maybe it was a mistake to leave you.
If things go well, and you two get back together, first of all congratulations...
and then secondly, remember that the changes you've made can't just be temporary...
you have to stick to "You Version Two".
Reverting back to old behavior could easily cause your partner to leave again, and this time you may not be able to get him/her back...
The main thing to remember at all times with this proven technique is that you never go "on the offensive.
"It's a gentle, nonthreatening process, and it fails if you start pressuring your ex to get back together.
It should ideally be your ex's idea to get back together, and if you end up having to be the one to bring it up it should already be to a point where it's surely on your ex's mind.
Just take it slow, and you should have a really good shot to get your life back together and get your ex back.
Chances are that if you're reading this, I probably don't have to tell you that.
I know that things can seem like they're falling apart, but rest assured that with a little work you CAN pull your life back together and even get your ex back! The first thing, the most important thing I can tell you, is to not fall into a nonproductive depressive state.
Things will never get better with you drowning in buckets of your own tears, so the sooner you change your outlook on things the sooner you'll be able to do something about it.
Once you've found yourself the motivation and determination to rise up and make the choice to make your life better and get your ex back, you've won half the battle.
Changing your attitude is the first step, and once you have found that will to succeed, everything else is just taking it one step at a time.
Now, chances are this comes a little too late, but when your partner has JUST broken up with you, it's important not to hound him/her about it.
As much as you may want to get back together immediately like nothing happened, bothering your now-ex when he/she is still hurting over the breakup isn't going to make things any better and actually has a fair chance of making it worse.
Even if you've already made the mistake of pressuring your ex into getting back together, back off now.
Give your ex some space...
and you could use it too.
The time you're not spending chasing back after your ex could be much better spent by doing some self-work.
I know that "self-work" is an ugly word that most people don't like, but it's important if you really want to get your ex back.
I'd say there's a 95% chance that if your partner broke up with you, the problem is SOMETHING to do with you.
People don't just end happy relationships that fulfill their needs, and usually the catalyst that makes the person decide to end it is some sort of behavior or fault of the partner.
It may not even be a BIG thing, but there's something not quite right with your half of the relationship.
Whatever it is you were doing or not doing, you need to figure it out so that you can do that dreaded self-work and really fix the source of your relationship troubles so that you stop having them.
It could be anything from a few annoying habits to a more grave concern like cheating on your partner.
I can't analyze your life for you and tell you what the problem is, that's something you're going to have to do yourself.
Once you HAVE figured out what's wrong, and really taken the necessary steps to fix your side of the problems, enough time will probably have passed to the point that reestablishing contact with your ex will be acceptable, but only if the contact is light and unassuming...
perhaps a phone call or email seeing how he/she is doing.
The point of this contact is simply just to make yourself known again, and open a few doors back up...
do NOT start trying to get back together at this point.
Take it slow.
If the first contact was received without too much hassle, you can work on slowly rebuilding contact with your ex.
This is a somewhat prolonged process that takes a while, but it's what works.
What you need to do is let your ex see how much you've been working on and are continuing to work on yourself, without flatly telling him/her.
Let your ex see it for him/herself.
Once it's gotten to a point where you're spending a fair amount of time together again, make sure that the things you're doing together are fun things you've always enjoyed together and that will bring back memories of how good you were together.
With the new and improved you, they'll probably be even better times than the memories, and your ex should begin to wonder if maybe it was a mistake to leave you.
If things go well, and you two get back together, first of all congratulations...
and then secondly, remember that the changes you've made can't just be temporary...
you have to stick to "You Version Two".
Reverting back to old behavior could easily cause your partner to leave again, and this time you may not be able to get him/her back...
The main thing to remember at all times with this proven technique is that you never go "on the offensive.
"It's a gentle, nonthreatening process, and it fails if you start pressuring your ex to get back together.
It should ideally be your ex's idea to get back together, and if you end up having to be the one to bring it up it should already be to a point where it's surely on your ex's mind.
Just take it slow, and you should have a really good shot to get your life back together and get your ex back.
